Changing Perspectives

Grief is not something I can get "over." It is something I will get through. Sometimes I think I am losing touch with reality, but it may be simply that my perspectives have changed. Watching a beautiful slideshow of family photos should not be excruciatingly painful! That reaction triggered anger and a determination to get through the pain to have my happy memories back. I sat with that slideshow and a box of Kleenex and watched it several times a day until my reaction was one of sweet sadness and smiles. I got through it! In griefworld, I have to clean up one little thing at a time. The images that haunt me have to be allowed to come, given their due attention, even if they come over and over again, until they don't. If they still haunt me, I'm not done yet. It takes courage to delve in, but my mind and body are providing a road map for the work I need to do.